Wondering if your special guy is thinking about popping the *big* question? Us too. To figure out whether or not he’s ready to say “I do”, we hit up the experts to find out common and not-so-common signs he’s going to propose. Take notes, sis, because this engagement cheat sheet is major.
We first chatted with Eleanore Brocq to tell us some signs he’s going to propose. Eleanore happens to know *exactly* what she’s talking about as she’s a clinical psychologist at Medcare Camali Mental Health Clinic. She told us “men and women do not have the same psychological functioning.” (Ok, side note: we’ve always suspected this and glad to see it’s confirmed by a profesh. *wink wink*)
“That’s a fact and it is very true if we observe how men prepare themselves to propose. Some signs are very obvious and most of the men are not very discrete despite the fact that they think they are.” (Side note number two: ROFL. We love this.) “We can’t generalize but here are five signs that can help you understand he will propose in a short period of time.”
Nervous cackles
Is he laughing like a hyena? Eleanore tells us sign numero uno is “he looks even ~more~ embarrassed when someone asks “when are you guys getting engaged?”. He may also blush or cackle nervously.”
Super sus opinions on weddings
“He’s started to develop strong opinions about others’ weddings and shows a new interest about a wedding’s organization or every detail that he can observe from a friend’s wedding. Without even noticing that he is awakening your senses, you’ll feel also suspicious for his sudden interest in details regarding diamonds quality, size, and color.” Personally, we think this is a good time to sway him to stan your diamond prefs.
All kinds of new questions
“He will ask questions that he never asked before or at least not with this intensity. Before your man gets down on one knee, he will want to be pretty certain that you will say yes. If the two of you casually throw around expressions like, “when we will be married” or “when we will have kids”, he is probably confident. But if you’re not there yet, he might ask, out of the blue, “Can you imagine us in a few years with a family?”
So…whaddaya think about that proposal?
Another one of the top signs he’s going to propose to you in his sleuthing about your proposal preferences. “When seeing others’ proposal, he asks your opinion on it. Indeed, he will be anxious about finding the best way to propose and he will want to be sure that what he has in mind is also something that you will like and feel comfortable with. Public area? private and quiet setting?” Maybe you even catch him googling “best places to propose UAE” or “places to propose in Dubai.”
Everyone else is gettin’ up in your biz-ness
“People keep making remarks. Friends and family are usually a good reflection of the state of your relationship. Also, your man will certainly need some support and advice from your loved ones and not everyone is capable of keeping that kind of secret. Especially because people that care about you will be very excited about this news too.” Ok, so when our WhatsApp starts blowing up asking us if *we* have any news, we’re taking that as one of the signs he’s going to propose sometime soon.
Now that we have those five signs he’s going to propose sorted, we, of course, wanted more. We stopped by to chat with relationship therapist, Helen Najar, of Miracles Dubai to find out her telltale signs he’s going to propose. Helen tells Cosmo ME, “there are a few subtle psychological signs to look out for that can give you an indication of how your partner is feeling about the relationship, especially if you are anticipating an upcoming proposal.” Spill the tea, Helen.
You’re at the top of their priority list
There will be absolutely no guessing how important you are to them. “Have you ever heard the term “if you’re not a priority, they shouldn’t be an option”? This term has more depth than you may be aware of, you see, when someone is in love subconsciously, they begin to put their partner as their priority.”
“You will notice in small ways that you are on their mind whether it is a small text through the day, making eye contact with you when you’re speaking to acknowledge your presence, to something more extravagant such as gifts and flowers. No matter the greatness of the gesture, you will feel that effort is being made toward you and that you are a part of their world and on their mind.” Ok, so if you’re driving on SZR and wondering “is he going to propose to me?”, take note of how often he shows you that you’re on his mind. Don’t forget the little things count too.
He sees your value
“Another sign to look for is if your partner values your value. Does your partner get excited by your achievements? Does your state of happiness reflect on their state of happiness?” Hmm so if you get a job promotion and he decided to hang out with his boys instead of celebrating with you, that may be a 🚩🚩🚩 sis. Forget about whether or not he’s dropping signs he’s going to propose and find someone that’ll celebrate your wins.
He’s commited to you on every level
“When you are wanting to commit to someone for life it goes beyond the superficial butterfly feeling in the stomach, it is a deep connection of knowing you are about to embark on a shared life together and as such your partner will be showing you the signs that they are committed to you on every level. Take time to notice how much your partner is investing into knowing you.”