Is our latest crush giving us body language signs that he’s not into us or what? Girl, sometimes guys are so hard to figure out. His good morning and good night texts are sweet, but when we’re together IRL we can’t tell if he’s giving us the cold shoulder *or* playing it cool in front of his friends. We already know body language signs that show he’s feelin’ us, but what about the ones that prove the opposite?
We talked to Dubai-based psychologist and relationship therapist, Sadia Khan, to get her expert insight and give us the low down on body language signs that show he’s not into you.
He never faces you
When a guy is seriously “interested in you, he will purposefully place himself in a manner that allows him to face you so he can read your facial expressions, make eye contact, and engage in conversation. He wants to look at you and talk to you, face to face.” The *exact opposite* occurs when he is not interested. He’ll “do what he can to avoid facing you directly, even if it’s something as subtle as tilting his body” a lil’ bit away from you. This is “his way of preventing emotional intimacy” and, unfortunately, one of the body language signs that he’s not into you.
He keeps a distance
How many times have you heard about man caves? Ngl, “guys love their personal space” and they prefer to be left to their own devices (literally) when they’re busy. “However, when they are looking to unwind, they want to be physically close to their partner because she provides him with comfort.” When the two of you are loungin’ on the couch or just hanging out together and “there is a significant physical distance between you and your partner, check to see if he adjusts himself to get his body closer to yours. If he ends up moving further away”, this is one of the body languages signs that he’s not into you and it sounds like your guy just isn’t a keeper.
His feet are pointed away from you
Wonder what your guy is unconsciously desiring? When in doubt, check out his feet. They give more away than you (and he) realise. “We tend to point our feet in the direction of what we want. For example, at work your feet may point towards the door towards the end of your shift and, similarly, when we are around people we like our feet will point towards them. If you notice he has his feet pointed in the opposite direction for an extended period of time, this is yet another one of our body language signs that he’s not in you.” If his feet are forever pointed towards his PS5, then that’s a whole ‘nother story.
His eyes are on other women
Let’s get this straight. “All men look at attractive women. It’s natural. It’s normal. It shouldn’t be a cause for concern.” Intention plays a *major* role here. If he’s with you, and he likes you, he may notice other attractive women but not on purpose. He’s not scanning the room for women, it’s more of a “natural accident.” However, if your dude is actively checking out other women and holding his focus with whoever catches his eye, this is most definitely one of his body language signs that he’s not into you. He essentially is “not engaged enough with you to lower his gaze” and, sis, you’re far too good for this kind of disrespect.
He’s more distant in public
Guys make it clear in public when he’s interested in a woman. He’ll “assert his dominance to other men by making it clear he is with you. He’ll walk side by side, hold your hand, and be somewhat protective. However, when he is not interested in you, the absolute last thing the guy will want is to be seen an ‘off the market’ to other women.” Body language signs that he’s not into you “include him keeping a distance from you, not showing any affection, not asserting any dominance or signs of protection over you.” Essentially, he’s going to make it look like the two of you are friends or even strangers.
Sadia notes “when assessing your guy’s body language, be careful not to take it out of context. For instance, if he’s acting cold but the two of you just had a huge fight, this isn’t a sign he’s not interested. More than likely, he’s drained by the argument. Use your power of discernment to place all these signs in context before making a conclusion.”