What shouldn't you compromise on in relationships?

Men are sharing the things they refuse to compromise on.
What shouldn't you compromise on in relationships?
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We know healthy relationships require hard work, communication and compromise. The idea that if it's "meant to be" you'll just sail along easily down the river to happy-ever-after is nonsense. But while you'll need to come to an agreement about certain things in your relationship, there will also be some you're not willing to budge on.

Men on Reddit are sharing examples of things they will not compromise on in relationships...

1. "I'd want them to be as committed as me. I cant imagine a relationship where I have to take the initiative every time. I wouldn't be sure if they felt the same and it wouldn't last." [via]

2. "I collect historical documents like wartime diaries, newspapers from occupied countries, and anything else that catches my fancy. I have been told by a partner that my hobby is lame and that I spend too much time in the past. If someone can’t tolerate my hobby (I don’t really care if they find it interesting, but that’s a bonus) then they can hit the road because it will just continue to cause a rift between us." [via]

3. "I need a partner confident in themselves. I'm too easily swayed to become the 'feel good' source where I make sure they don't feel anxious, self conscious, ugly, etc. I feel bad because I have had a great relationship with a girl that started out super self conscious. But I didn't recognise the toll it takes on me to be the entire source of validation. It's not sustainable for me long term." [via]


4. "I can never date a bad communicator again. Trying to understand feelings, motives, everything with little hints and non-direct language made me lose my mind. I can work through any sort of issue, but I’m not begging to find out what’s on someone’s mind. Be an adult. Speak up." [via]

5. "Going to IKEA every three weekends to gets some bits. I'm sick of the sight of the place!" [via]

6. "I don't want kids. I wavered a bit on it in the past but then I made up my mind. I have wonderful nieces and nephews that I enjoy spending time with, but that's where it ends." [via]

7. "Most of the time I don't have any preference and I default to whatever my partner wants. I'm a go with the flow kind of guy. So the few times I ask for something I expect it to be respected. I of course don't mean no compromise if it's directly against my partners wishes." [via]

8. "Bad treatment. Be it verbal, emotional, mental...anything. I understand life and relationship aren't always rainbows and sunshine, but if someone is going to abuse me and be too much of a coward to get their shit together, apologise and never do it again, they can go." [via]


9. "Whether or not we will have kids. If we are not on the same page on that, then I want out. Your wants are perfectly valid, but when talking about such a massive commitment it is not fair to ask your partner to either give up on having kids or completely rework their original life plans to have them." [via]

10. "Anger issues. Too much of that in the world. Don't need it at home too." [via]

11. "Being shouted at. I see so many couples out there that say arguing and shouting is normal and little fights are to be expected. I don't think it's normal to fight like that with the person you chose to love." [via]

12. "Them setting rules for me, but then breaking those same rules themselves." [via]

From Cosmopolitan UK.