Let’s be real for a sec: heartbreak isn’t just about breakups. It can come from friendships falling apart, the ache of a personal experience you never asked for, or the moment life stops looking like the version you had in your head. For me, it was… a few of the above. I had a deep heaviness that felt too big to carry – all at once.
I felt stuck. The version of me I once knew had quietly slipped away, and I didn’t know how to reach her.
So, I did something different. I sat down with a spiritual healer – not because I thought it would magically fix everything, but because I needed a new language to process what I was feeling. And honestly? It helped.
We talked about the energy we hold onto when we don’t truly let go. About how we sometimes confuse peace with just avoiding what we feel. We learned that healing isn’t about feeling better in an instant, but about slowly finding your way back to yourself.
There’s no manual for what to do after your heart shatters – when you’re left with a version of yourself you barely recognise. But if you’re in the thick of it, navigating grief, heartbreak, or that quiet ache that won’t quite lift, here are some practices to help guide you back to yourself.
Rebuilding your self-worth after heartbreak
Heartbreak can feel like a rupture – but it’s also a quiet invitation to return to yourself, gently and consistently. Healing self-worth isn’t about grand gestures. It’s about showing up for yourself, one small act of care at a time. These are a few practices that helped me rebuild myself:
- Take mindful walks in nature – barefoot when possible – to reconnect with your inner rhythm.
- Create time for journaling. Let your emotions speak freely, without judgment.
- Choose nourishing meals that support your gut and emotional balance – the two are more connected than we often realise.
Therapies like crystal sound healing, calming breathwork, or nervous system resets can help release emotional tension and re-establish a sense of safety in the body. For many, heartbreak is stored physically – especially in the gut. Consider exploring gentle belly massage or practices that promote gut-brain balance to bring clarity from the inside out.
Grounding Yourself Through Grief and Loss
Grief is slippery – some days, you’re fine, then suddenly you’re crying in a coffee shop. That’s normal. But grounding practices, bring you back. Back into your body, back into the now, back into something solid when everything feels like it’s floating or falling apart. They won’t fix it – but they help you breathe through it.
- Walk by a river or under trees. Let nature guide your breath and your pace.
- Engage in gentle movement like yoga, tai chi, or intuitive stretching.
- Try barefoot walking on soil or grass – a simple but powerful grounding tool.
- Crystal sound healing or other frequency-based therapies can help shift stagnant emotions and support inner calm.
Even a few moments of presence each day – observing the stillness of the sky or the rhythm of flowing water – can offer perspective and peace.
Letting go sounds beautiful in theory – but how do you actually do it?
Letting go isn’t always a big release. Most of the time, it’s quiet. It’s choosing again and again to loosen your grip on something that’s already gone. Sometimes it’s messy. Sometimes it’s peaceful. But when you give yourself space to feel, the letting go happens naturally, in its own time. These were a little rituals that helped:
Journaling Ritual
- Each night, light a candle.
- Write a letter to the part of you that’s still holding on.
- End with: “Tonight, I choose to let go of…”
- Finish by listing three things you’re grateful for. It helps gently shift your energy from pain to presence.
Movement & Release
- Practice slow, mindful yoga or go for a quiet, intentional walk.
- Walk barefoot to ground yourself – this helps reset your nervous system.
Energy Healing
- Reiki, breathwork, or sound baths anything that helps you release what’s stuck in your body.
Rest & Reset
- Unplug an hour before bed.
- Take a warm bath or herbal tea to calm your senses.
- Keep a regular sleep rhythm to rebuild trust in your body and your path.
How to support emotional release?
Some days, getting out of bed felt impossible. That’s when a mantra becomes your anchor. Yes – sometimes all you need is a few steady words to hold onto when everything else feels heavy. It’s not going to fix the pain, but it can give your heart something softer to land on.
Try: “I let go with ease. I welcome space, softness, and clarity.” Say it when you wake up. Say it when the ache creeps in. Say it even if you don’t fully believe it yet – especially then. Eventually, it starts to land.
Pair this with daily micro-rituals:
- Begin the day with five deep breaths, repeating the affirmation silently
- Walk barefoot outside, even just for five minutes
- Take a mindful pause during the day – under a tree, at a window – and simply be.
How can do I protect my energy when I feel emotionally raw or exposed?
When you feel like your emotional skin is missing, even the smallest things can feel like too much. It’s okay to pull back. To soften. To choose quiet over noise. Protecting your energy isn’t about shutting down it’s about honoring what’s tender.
What helped me:
- Gentle movement – stretching and yoga.
- Disconnect and unplug. Go outside, write a few thoughts, or just breathe in silence.
- Let go of being “productive.” Just be present. Your energy is sacred – not everyone deserves access to it.
What does ‘forgiving and letting go’ actually look like on a spiritual level?
Forgiveness is all about the energetic release it doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt. It means letting go of the heavy stuff that weighs down your heart and energy. Spiritually, it’s about clearing out the emotional debris of old wounds. that’s taking up space in your heart.
Try Gratitude Alchemy:
Write down 5 things that the pain taught you – boundaries, resilience, deeper compassion. Don’t sugarcoat it. Let it be true.
Or try a Moon Release Journal ritual:
On a full moon, write down what you’re ready to let go of – anger, guilt, heartbreak. Burn it or bury it. Let nature witness your release.
I’m not here to say I’m 100% healed. Healing isn’t a straight line and sometimes the smallest things can still sting. But I’m softer with myself now. Kinder. I don’t chase the joy, but I make room for it when it arrives.
So if you’re going through it – heartbreak, burnout, a friendship breakup that hit way harder than expected – just know this: you’re not broken. You’re becoming. And that version of you on the other side? She’s gonna feel so much lighter.
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