It’s story time, my friends. Pull up a pew, grab some tea and get ready to learn all about an ancient pastime known as common curtesy and good manners.
Everyone ready? Let’s begin. A long time ago, back when people used to look each other in the eyes, every act of kindness was followed with a “thank you” and or, “smile”.
I’m not fairly certain why or when gratitude went out of style but, somewhere on our journey to being the best of best and to feeling less, we lost it. Sad fact.
In my quest to bring the trend back, I’ve read countless books and asked my elders of the appropriate ways of thanking someone for something they have done.
It was a fascinating read and study. I learnt a lot. Some of which, I would like to pass on to you (not because you are ungrateful. No, we are friends, which means that you are a kind hearted individual, who may or may not pancakes a bit more than you should) to pass on to those who seem to struggle with practicing or remembering the ancient art of kindness.
Let’s all hold hands and begin our journey of spreading love and kindness.
1. When someone opens the door for you, you should…
The ideal response: Say “thank you” and smile
The mediocre response: Smile
How not to respond: Walk on like the door was automatic
2. When you are trying to get your waiters attention, you should…
The ideal response: “Hi (insert waiters name – (pretty sure their mum didn’t go through hours of labor and forget to name them)), can I please place an order?”
The mediocre response: “Can I please place an order?”
How not to respond: “I want xxxxx” – who even are you?
3. When you are at the supermarket and the teller asks how you are, you should…
The ideal response: Give them an honest answer and return the question
The mediocre response: Say “I’m fine, thank you.”
How not to respond: Stare/ sigh/ ignore them all together
4. When someone holds the lift open for you, you should…
The ideal response: Thank them
The mediocre response: Smile
How not to respond: Ignore the gesture all together
5. When you see someone trying to catch the lift, you should…
The ideal response: Hold it open for them and let them know that you are holding door open, so they don’t hurt themselves trying to make it
The mediocre response: Hold the door open for them
How not to respond: Do not press the close button repeatedly. It’s rude and karma has a way of making you pay
6. When someone finishes a task you asked them to do, you should…
The ideal response: Say “thank you” and wish them a great day further
The mediocre response: Say “thank you”
How not to respond: By saying “Fabulous”, “Cool” or simply ignoring their hard work – I will understand why people always think that it’s so hard to show a little appreciation
7. You’ve ordered ice cream and the server forgot to give you a spoon, you should…
The ideal response: Politely remind them that they forgot to give you a spoon
The mediocre response: Ask for one
How not to respond: Sigh and make the situation bigger than it is
8. When you’re trying to cross the street and a car gives you way, you should…
The ideal response: Smile warmly and do that polite/awkward hand gesture that thanks the driver in the car for their act of kindness
The mediocre response: Robotically wave to the driver thanking them
How not to respond: Not even make eye contact and ungratefully strut across the street like your father owns it
While it may seem like I’m being rude, I’m really just trying to remind people that it is ok to be kind. The world is hard enough as it is and showing just a little bit of love can really make a difference in the long run.
That’s all for now. Be kind to one and other.