Several years ago now, I was driving my car through the most affluent Dallas, Texas neighbourhoods, assertively reminding myself, “I am a multi-millionaire.” At the time, I was anything but a Money Queen.
I was piecing together the income from multiple part-time jobs while putting myself through graduate school to become a therapist, and living in a — let’s just say — less-than-ideal neighbourhood. I grew up in a small town in Oklahoma. Where “saving” money was king and my mom was known to say, “It all adds up. Every little bit counts.” As she clipped coupons and encouraged us to share bathwater.
And despite the reality I had experienced up to that point, deep inside I believed that I would make a difference in this world. I would help people. And I’d make a lot of money doing it. And I did.
Today, I am a self-made multimillionaire and the owner of an eight-figure global personal development brand. I am known for my training and program on financial empowerment for women. Some call me, “The Money Queen,” as my work has supported tens of thousands of women to revolutionize their relationships and experiences with money. In other words, I have helped a lot of women make a lot of money.
I do this by guiding them in stripping away everything that’s in their way — namely the beliefs, feelings, thoughts, false perceptions, cultural norms, and stories that tell them that they are not worthy and that they can’t have what they want — so they can be honest about what they truly desire, and step into the faithful courage to go after it. So, you may ask, how did I get here? After becoming a therapist, I found one core theme that many of my adult clients struggled with: Money.
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Brilliant women, from all walks of life each plagued with patterns, fears and unhelpful thinking around their finances. I became fascinated, and soon determined — to support women in healing their relationships with money and creating more supportive experiences with money. And after many years of doing us, I’ve learned this: When women are well-resourced, the entire world changes.
Good-hearted women do good things with money. It shows up in what we buy, who we support, where we give, how we contribute, and how we are able to raise our children. When women have the power of money in their hands, generational patterns of lack and disempowerment are broken.
When women have the funds to back them up, they are less likely to settle for jobs, partners or situations that do not serve them. When women know how to generate, invest, and multiply their own money, they get to choose what is right for them, based on their own desires, no matter what anyone else thinks is right for them.
As women, we hold such a wealth of wisdom, love, and power inside of us, but we often get stuck by our societal, academic, religious or familial ideas and expectations. We know people who messed up things with money, who couldn’t handle having money, or who lost all of their money in one way or another.
So, we feel wrong for wanting money. Or we feel guilty, selfish, or greedy for desiring more of it. We feel like money doesn’t happen to “someone like us,” or that something terrible would happen if we made the money we actually desire. We don’t want to be like those ugly people. But we don’t have to be. None of those outcomes has to become our reality.
Consider this perspective: Money is a neutral resource. It is not good or bad. It is not right or wrong. Again, good people do good things with money. To expand our capacity to receive, have, and hold money, we must sort through the beliefs that stop us from wanting money or believing it’s not okay to want it.
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When you desire money from a ‘clean’ place, knowing that you will use it to improve your life, and the lives of those around you, you give money a new role. And generating, using, spending, and giving money can become a spiritual practice.
From small things like buying healthier foods, and sustainable products and living in a home we feel secure in — to supporting businesses, leaders and organizations we believe in — to helping others as generosity moves us. In this way: Money can be of love. Money can be of support and service. Money can be anything we choose it to, depending on the intention we hold as we use it.
As you continue to view money as a good thing, and as you remove any internal conflicts that you hold around money, you position yourself to be a good steward of it and a clear channel for it. Simply put: When you change your mindset around money, you change your experience of having money.
As women, we must become financially empowered. It’s time we challenge and disprove every little lie that tells us this isn’t possible for us. It’s time we live as the authorities of our lives and our worlds. It’s time we conduct ourselves as money queens.
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